Sexuality as a Spectrum


As you read this title, you may be wondering, "What does this mean?"

It's simple, really, it means you aren’t either 100% straight or 100% gay. Sexuality is more complex than just being straight or gay, but I deliberately use this example to explain what is meant by a ‘spectrum’.

This is a conversation I had with a friend recently.


She explained that, nowadays, people don’t limit themselves when it comes to sexual desires. Let me remark ‘not everyone,’ I don’t want to bring any confusions.

But, it's true that everyone may feel some kind of attraction or, I would prefer to say, admiration when it comes to the same gender. However, it doesn’t mean you are sexually attracted to them.

A man may say or think, "Oh, that man looks handsome and strong – not a bad type." This man may have said this to someone and most guys would freak-out and think this man is hitting on them and that they are gay.

But, in reality, this man is straight and happily married to a woman. The same counts for women. Women can say, or think, "That woman is beautiful – look at that body!" it doesn’t mean she wants to have sex with her.

You also have those that consider themselves to be pansexual – they feel attraction for intelligence; they don’t even care about the gender. Obviously, feeling this way doesn't mean you are gay.

In fact, there are those who simply want to experience – especially this popular generation, the millennials. My dear friend explained to me that she believes that, sometimes, people want to explore what it's like to be sexually involved with their own gender; both women with women and men with men.

Research says that the millennial generation knows that the youth tend to not to see themselves in gender terms; they are not totally gay or totally straight and might fall in love with a man, woman, both or neither.

Statistically, most people tend to have a particular preference one way or the other, but there are many people that are not so clear. I have friends who find the person they fall in love with, their personality, and how they are, is more important than that persons' sex.

Personally, I think that the fairest way to see sexuality is simply to accept that it is a spectrum in the sense that there are many different variations. It's not just about gays and lesbians who have sexual and romantic attractions with others of their same sex, as many straight people might do as well.

There are more straight than gay people, but straight people also want to have sexually diverse pleasure, maintain eye contact, and feel the touch, if more straight people were to be freed from their sexual and gender – I believe Millennials are doing just that;

"We are here, not for a long time but, for a good time."

What do you think?

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