Imagine this. You’ve been in the dating game for a while, how long exactly? You can’t even remember. You have accounts on multiple dating sites, such as Tinder, Baddoo (HotOrNot), Her or even Grindr, maybe. You went on multiple dates, had some great nights; all of which resulted in some blank pages of nothingness. As you’re reading this, I have probably described you. As a matter of fact, I have just described myself… And, every failed date after another, I ask myself, “Why the FUCK am I still single?” I don’t have a single clue! Or, maybe I do.
I found myself desperately searching for an answer as to why I am still single. Many blogs and articles I came across stated things such as "You’re trying too hard, you’re not looking in the right places," and a whole bunch of other crap. I will tell you why I am single and hopefully, this is more realistic than those biased Facebook quizzes.
I am happily single.
I mean since my last six-day relationship, the thought of being in a "relationship" has really put me off. The thought of having a significant other and sharing my time with someone else is not something I’m looking forward to. I believe that I am in that stage of my life where I am the center of my own attention – which is totally fine. I am basically in the prime (Phryme) time of my life. I am traveling as much as I can, doing what I love such as photographing and writing blogs. I have the greatest friends I could ask for, so do I really need a boyfriend on top of that?
I am just too good for you.
I am not trying to boost myself or anything, but I have come to believe that maybe there is absolutely nothing wrong with me. The people whom I went on dates with probably didn’t have the same good intentions as I did. In the sense that I was offering them more than what they were looking for. (me=relationship vs. them= one-night stand)
Drake’s song Too Good is the perfect representation of why I’m just too good for you (a relationship).
My knight in shining armor is riding on a turtle.
My future lover has probably limited means of transportation and is probably on some jungle riding on a turtle. I mean honestly, what else could be taking them so long? Did he fall off the face of the earth and is finding his way back to civilization? Regardless of how he is getting to me and wherever he may be, I am in no rush to find him. Just like the saying, "What is meant to be, will be," goes, frantically looking for something that is not meant to be in my life right now is not the best decision I should be making.
All in all, as long as I am happy with myself and my life I believe that I can be single for as long as can be.
Ps. All these pointers are subjective to my own personal experiences at the moment. Do not take me seriously as all experiences may vary per person.
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